Heal a Broken Equestrian Heart: Turn into Hope

Last updated on August 1st, 2024 at 04:56 pm

This week felt like it had the potential to move another step forward in my dream of becoming an accomplished equestrian. Instead, I (mentally) took a huge step backward. I took my horse Nikki to Pioneer Equine Hospital, which is a three-hour drive from my home in Northern California. He went for his complete lameness exam, ultrasound, etc.

The vet found absolutely nothing wrong with my horse. Good news, right? You would think so, but not in my mind. Now, my horse Nikki’s “problem” is all behavioral and training, which, in my mind, makes it 100% my fault.

There were some very nice horses at the vet hospital—fancy horses, well-kept horses. When I viewed Nikki, I objectively stood back and looked. I was embarrassed. He’s skinny and has no muscle tone. His coat is dirty and rough, his mane is shaggy, and his tail is uncombed.

How did I let this happen?

All of this has me right back to believing that

• No, I cannot ride.
• No, I should not be on a horse.
• No, when it comes to horses, and
• I have no idea what I’m doing.

I’m sure that my new trainers could fix Nikki back up. But why? What’s the point? Under my care, he will revert to what he is now. I’ve said it a million times: dedication, persistence, and patiently progressing towards a goal are not my strong points.

Not one to sit back and pout, I need to create solutions to move forward:

Despite these feelings, it’s important for me to recognize that every equestrian journey has ups and downs. Every setback is an opportunity to learn and grow. And Nikki deserves better.

1. Recognize Progress:
Remind myself that the journey to becoming an accomplished equestrian is a marathon, not a sprint. Celebrate small victories along the way.

2. Seek Professional Help:
Work closely with trainers to develop a structured training and care plan for Nikki. Regular check-ins can ensure that Nikki’s progress is monitored and adjusted as needed.

3. Create a Routine:
Establish a daily routine for Nikki’s care. Consistency in feeding, grooming, and exercise will help improve his condition and my confidence.

4. Set Realistic Goals:
Break down your long-term goal into smaller, achievable milestones. Celebrate each small victory to maintain motivation and track progress.

5. Join a Supportive Horse Community:
Engage with other equestrians who can offer advice, share experiences, and provide encouragement. A supportive network can make a significant difference.

6. Focus on Self-Care:
Remember to take care of my own mental and physical well-being. A balanced lifestyle will help me stay dedicated and persistent in pursuing my dream.

7. Reflect and Adjust:
Regularly reflect on my journey and adjust my approach as needed. Flexibility and adaptability are key to overcoming challenges.

By implementing these solutions, I can turn setbacks into stepping stones, nurturing both Nikki and my dream of becoming an accomplished equestrian. My improved dedication, persistence, and patience will pay off, and I can see progress over time. Keep believing in myself and my dream because every great achievement starts with a single step forward.

Danelle Jacobs

Danelle Jacobs is a defense attorney in Northern California who specializes in juvenile cases. When she is not practicing law and raising her kids, she dreams of being an accomplished equestrian.