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30 Powerful Affirmations for Daughters of Toxic Mothers

Last updated on March 2nd, 2018 at 12:20 am

As part of my dream of writing my Toxic Mom Toolkit book-and my writing process about growing up and dealing with a toxic mother, I created a set of 30 powerful affirmations for daughters of toxic mothers to help you with the healing process.

I don’t know if you ever do this as a daughter of a toxic mother, but I have caught myself on several occasions repeating little affirmations to myself, little mantras to shield me from toxic mother fall-out. Since posting these affirmations here caused them to go viral, I included them in my dream book, Toxic Mom Toolkit.

My friend, Jen, says affirmations are kind of dorky and I know what she means, but I’ve compiled this list that could last a month anyway, although I really hope none of my readers actually needs one every single day.

Or you could just sit in the bathtub and pout like I’ve been known to do.

30 Powerful Healing Affirmations for Daughters of Toxic Mothers

1. My toxic mother won’t kill me. If she could, she would have already.

2. Any guilt I feel regarding my toxic mother was planted, watered and tended by my mother.

3. If my toxic mother were a co-worker or neighbor and I moved away, I’d never visit her again.

4. Family secrets instill guilt and shame. Are you being paid to keep family secrets? It’s not my job to keep family secrets.

5. If I hear my mother’s voice in my head belittling me, I will tell her out loud that she’s wrong. It’s okay.

6. Any mother who could be cruel to a child is not going to apologize to that child when they’ve grown up.

7. I will take everything negative about my mother and flip it in my life: I will create a welcoming and warm home life; I will express love and encourage others daily; I will extend myself to those in need and I will remember: a life well-lived is the best revenge.

8. 5 ways to say no to my toxic mother:

A. No, I won’t be doing that.
B. No, don’t count on my being there.
C. No, I’m done subjecting myself to your drama.
D. No, I choose not to accept the stress.
E. No, I have more positive things to do.

9. I can tell my toxic mother that as I’ve grown into a woman (or man) I’ve developed a better understanding of the choices she made. (That should shut her up for a few moments).

10. My toxic mother can only intimidate me if I let her. While she’s busy trying to bully the child me, the adult me can reject her, ignore her, correct her, or report her to authorities.

11. I will amuse myself to avoid getting sucked into her games. I will keep an egg timer, a pad, and paper by the phone. I will tally the lies, the guilt trips and the demands she can make in 3 minutes. Then I will hang up.

30 Powerful Affirmations for Daughters of Toxic Mothers - Dealing with Crazy

12. I will never fight crazy with crazy. Crazy is my toxic mother’s “hood.”

13. Repeat after me: My toxic mother does not live in my head. She lives in her head.

14. When relatives and friends say they can’t understand how I can treat my mother the way I do, I’ll consider telling them the truth.

15. I know that a toxic mother is an unnatural disaster.

16. I can laugh or I can cry. I will laugh. It’ll annoy the hell out of my toxic mother.

17. I will never hand my toxic “mom bomb” the match.

18. On Mother’s Day and other family holidays, I will focus on the positive women (and men) in my life. I will thank them for their caring, kindness and encouragement.

19. The cruel rule of RSVP is that the one person you hope will decline always comes. I promise to never actually extend an invitation to an event at which I’d hate to see my toxic mother.

30 Powerful Affirmations for Daughters of Toxic Mothers - Positive Time

20. I will participate in mother-daughter time only if it’s positive.

21. I will give my toxic mother the one gift she never gave me: the truth.

22. I will not let my toxic mother rob me of rich friendships with women who on the surface remind me of her. (What are the odds your mother had an even more evil twin?).

23. Remember what my dad said: nobody can resist a joyous woman. I chose to remain joyous in spite of my mother.

24. I am open to considering that my toxic mother may have been treated even more badly as a child than I was. (This thought could keep you from throwing something).

25. I know there is no dishonor in retreat. I know that refusing to join in battle is a small victory when it comes to toxic mothers.

26. Keeping my children away from my toxic mother is a no-brainer. I choose to introduce them to kind, responsible elders instead. (Don’t know any? Consider visiting or volunteering with your child at a senior center or veterans home for an hour a week.).

27. Honor thy mother and father? I can choose to honor them by respecting myself first.

Powerful Affirmation for Daughters of Toxic Mothers Stare down fears

28. I will stare down my toxic mom fears until they fear me more.

29. That which is most personal is most universal. I know people will understand if I simply say, “My mother is not a nice person, but I am.”

30. Whose little girl am I? I can be my own little girl. I can care for and nurture her myself.

It is my sincerest hope that these healing affirmations help you in dealing with your toxic mother.

Affirmations for Toxic Mothers: Toxic Mom Toolkit the book by Rayne Wolfe

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Rayne Wolfe

Rayne Wolfe is a versatile and accomplished writer, author, writing coach, and freelancer. Her notable work includes ‘Toxic Mom Toolkit,’ a memoir that not only shares her personal journey but also features mini-stories from women around the globe who, despite facing the challenges of a toxic mother, have grown into resilient adults. As a seasoned journalist, Rayne has served as a former business columnist for the San Francisco Chronicle/Examiner Sunday and the Seattle Times, showcasing her ability to distill complex topics into engaging narratives that resonate with diverse audiences.

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