It’s time to reflect on the week and blog about my something that has been resonating with me since the beginning of the year:
Moving on is really about deciding on a fresh start.
This week was like watching a repeat of a movie. The same life-changing incident happened to three people in my life. It was bizarre to witness first-hand these friends of mine moving through their lives in synchronicity as they pursue their true happiness. They all have one thing in common; they are breaking away from their normal lives to take on the unknown, two of which are leaving the country, and one who is moving out of her parent’s home.
Listening to each of their stories made me realize that even though to the outside world their actions might appear selfish, and maybe even obdurate towards their families–in actuality, they are brave, bold and courageous.
Moving on from what is comfortable to us is not easy.
Especially if that “comfortable something” is a job or a relationship. The amount of courage it takes to change your life can feel overwhelming at first — this is why it can be so hard to change what we know we should.
And what if change is thrown upon you? What are you suppose to do when life is forcing change down upon you?
Many of us were programmed by well-meaning parents, teachers, siblings and adults to think that we can’t do things that are outside of the established “norm” because you could get hurt, or be an embarrassment, or fail in a way that you will never recover. It’s better to play it safe and go for the “sure thing.”
But that “sure thing” quite often can feel like a prison and when you aren’t being or doing what you feel called by your heart to become that prison of safety begins to feel like you are living a lie and deep unhappiness can set in.
Moving on from what is causing unhappiness in your life is not selfish; it’s simply making a choice to pursue what you know in your heart you deserve.
This is exactly what I did when I decided to follow my dream to become an inspirational speaker. I must admit, it felt great to follow my dream and see that I was brave enough to risk change and all that comes with it.
I too have felt challenged when it was difficult to walk way from something or someone — even though I had been suffering in silence and knew it was the right thing to do.
The bottom line is: if it does not resonate well with your spirit, it will eventually be deleterious to your life’s journey of becoming who you were meant to become here on this earth.
Moving on can bring on some sadness too. I am saddened that I will not be seeing my moving friends for a few months, or possibly years, but by the same notion, I am also deeply happy that they are putting themselves first and going for their dreams.
Moving on isn’t a bad thing.
Deciding to stay unhappy is.
Sue Levy is the founder of the South African Just Pursue It Blog and Inspirational Women Initiative. She’s a motivational writer and media designer, who is obsessed with everything inspirational with a hint of geek. She thrives on teaching women how to be brave and take big chances on themselves. You can find Sue on her Twitter page @Sue_Levy.
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