3 Online Dating Rules For Women in Midlife

Last updated on May 13th, 2024 at 03:59 pm

I have been progressing quite nicely in my dream to date in mid-life. Overcoming multiple levels of fear, I have taken my power back and refuse to be defeated. Shopping for dates online is my choice today. I may progress to other avenues later, but it is online dating today.

I have joined SeniorPeopleMeet.com and included a free site called Plentyoffish.com—yes, two online dating websites.

I’ve had difficulty being sensitive to the negative feedback I received from some of these men. As a result of that sensitivity, I have had to get tough. That’s right—it is time to set some boundaries and take more action.

I have found a way to communicate – I do not respond – I delete. It’s working great!

Here are my Online Dating Rules of Engagement

1. Safety First

• Never give out your email address, phone number, full name, or date of birth. Remember, ladies, identity theft is at an all-time high.
• After four full conversations on the secure dating website, if you are still interested, take his phone number and block yours.
• If you believe you would like to meet him after a couple of successful telephone conversations, progress to coffee.
• You might meet this potential partner in a local coffee shop in your hometown, where there are lots of people or people who know you.

2. Weed Out The Jerks

• The instant online chat feature can be useful in getting to know someone and asking those questions.
• He probably is if he looks, acts, and sounds too good to be true.
• Choose your age preference, and anyone outside those guidelines gets instantly deleted. Make sure they’re out of diapers but not yet ready for depends.
• Chose your height and body type guidelines, again anyone outside of those guidelines gets deleted.
• Do not entertain anyone who is not looking for exactly what you are looking for, whether a serious or casual relationship. They will not change their minds.
• Financial income is below billionaire investor Warren Buffett but above the guy on the corner with the sign “God Bless.” Do not veer off your path, ladies.
• If they get angry or rude, hit the delete button.
• A bi-coastal relationship is not a permanent relationship.
• Strong sexual overtures do not suggest a man of substance.
• If he doesn’t know how to use spell check while writing his profile = delete.

3. Photography Rules

• Rule number 1: Ask what year the photo was taken.
• Rule number 2: Ask them to please give you a close-up photo so you can see their face.
• Rule number 3: Remember sometimes a man’s personality, sense of humor, and charm, far outweighs his looks.
• Rule number 4: Sometimes, a man looks better than his photo.
• Rule number 5: if every photo in his online photo album is of him and his dog, chances are there will be three of you on your first date.
• Rule number 6: Photos of possessions only, no personal photo = delete.
• Rule number 7: Don’t forget to use that zoom-in feature to double-check for the wedding band.

Here’s a good pointer: Listen up, married people. If he or she tells you they’re married, take it at face value that you won’t receive an engagement ring soon. Remember that seniorpeoplemeet.com has an added feature of audio content for your intended beau. If he sounds like he needs his adenoids removed, you might have difficulty taking him seriously.

Remember, ladies and gentlemen, you are in a buyer’s market. Don’t settle for discounted, damaged, or after-market goods. Sometimes, what they don’t say gives them away.

The bottom line is that for the price of enrollment, I got three months of piecing together the man of my dreams while rooting out anyone who would just be wasting my time. If I can do this, so can you!

Veronica Jacobsen

Veronica Jacobsen is the Director Of Business Development at Life-Rock, a nonprofit organization committed to helping people in recovery with their personal well-being.