Last updated on December 2nd, 2012 at 11:08 pm
So you get how scary it is. Why did I pick dating again as my dream, after years off the market?
Because I’m crazy.
Many people have suggested I shop for a man online. I have done this in the past and the idea doesn’t sit well with me.
Okay, it makes me want to vomit.
I think you get that I haven’t found the experience to be all that “enjoyable.” Since I am still single — obviously the online matches didn’t work out.
There is a reason this site is referred to as “meHarmony.” I have found that I end up meeting the worst part of me – you know — the person I changed from after high school. I don’t want to meet that person.
I want to meet a guy who challenges me to grow. Plus, friends have told me that if you are not religious you don’t get many matches. Since I am religious, I don’t know whether this is true or not, but it didn’t work out any better for me anyway.
I don’t know if it’s good to be on a dating site my children and co-workers can find me on . . .
I grow tired of the profile line,
I like long walks on the beach.”
Even if you live in Kansas?
I refer to this site as “sex.com”, because most of the men I have encountered there want to see a full length photo, with cleavage and their opening line exists of
What are you wearing?”
I’m wearing turned-off – how does that look? It’s all about the hook-up meet-up – not about getting to know a person.
Okay. I hate the name.
But this site isn’t that bad with forums and computability matches, but do I really want to date someone in Prague Russia? Or get involved with someone 2500 miles away?
And it still feels like,
Hi. I have an ad, and if I did my dating resume right, you and I might connect. . . what . . . you’re married?”
And it gets poor scores from a usability standpoint online. I don’t need to accidentally date my cousin in France because the system lined us up. . . um next?
I keep being told this site is fun, but rumor has it that they hide less attractive users from attractive users. How am I suppose to meet my nice bald, slightly fat, kind, adorable man?
Besides, the demographics say the average age is 18 – 34, so I don’ think my guy is there.
No. I am definitely not doing the Mrs Robinson thing.
Yeah, I am not even going here.
If you Google “Lavalife sucks” it tells me all I need to know.
This site confuses me. How can you have chemistry without meeting in person?
With profiles that open with sentences like,
I played football all the way through graduation and 8th grade”
as their most interesting educational pursuit, it makes me want to turn off my computer and never turn it back on.
Is there such a thing as a “perfect match”? The main focus of the site is on finding a long-term partner, rather than making friends or meeting dates.
The average age is 20-40 years. I am looking for these people’s parents. Maybe I should join and ask to meet their dads?
Okay, I have to admit, I like the name and the demographic is for age 50 and older. But from what I see online for reviews there’s a lot of Nigerian “so-called men and women” who want to hook-up.
Do I even want to deal with this?
It’s enough that I get these emails,
Dear Madam, I have in my person a lottery fund check that . . .”
I don’t want to deal with this on a dating site too.
Meeting men online and meeting men in the real world differ in many ways. Though neither one guarantees finding a loving partner, in many cases I have found online dating relationships not to be that strong. I think it is the result of meeting someone over a computer, instead of meeting them when you are out living your life.
A person gives of a lot of clues when you meet them in person, or watch them in their environment.
You can make assessments based on behaviors that might make you crazy – which can be hidden online.
What? I didn’t tell you I like to wear dirty socks all the time?”
Also technology can create a sort of pseudo-intimacy that can lead to premature frankness . . .
Do you wear underwear?”
Come on, would you really ask that if we casually met in a coffee shop?
I believe successful relationships start out best when nourished with support from friends and family. I am still convinced it is better to be introduced through family and friends. There’s an accountability when a guy has to answer to his friends.
Where is he?
And you? How do you like to meet people?
And please don’t say it’s online.
Veronica rotated off 8 Women Dream in December of 2011 after successfully completing 2 dreams.
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