My Big Dream Advice On How to Blend a Family

Last updated on July 15th, 2023 at 06:19 pm

Blending a family of two divorced people can be a challenging but rewarding process. Part of my big dream is to be able to blend two families when I get married again–without a lot of drama.

Is that even possible when kids are involved?

Here are 9 tips friends have offered up to me in my quest to create the all-american blended family:

1. Communication is key: Open and honest communication is essential in any blended family. I am advised to encourage all family members to express their thoughts, concerns, and feelings. Create a safe and non-judgmental space where everyone can share their experiences.

I think this might require a whole lot of pizza–with extra cheese.

2. Setting realistic expectations: Blending a family takes time and patience. Understand that it may not be smooth sailing from the beginning. Having realistic expectations and being prepared for ups and downs along the way is crucial.

I think my friends really know me with this advice.

3. Respecting everyone’s feelings: Recognize that each family member may have different emotions and experiences related to the divorce and the blending process. Validate their feelings and be respectful of their needs. Empathy and understanding go a long way in building a strong foundation.

Whatever happened to “when mom is happy, everyone is happy?”

4. Creating new traditions: As a blended family, it’s an opportunity to create new traditions and rituals that can help foster a sense of togetherness. Involve everyone in brainstorming ideas and encourage their participation in making these traditions meaningful.

Now this is an idea I can really get behind. Do you think setting up a ritual of getting kids to handle all of the dog’s needs without me having to ask will foster that sense of togetherness?

5. Establishing clear boundaries: Setting boundaries helps everyone understand their roles and responsibilities within the blended family. Discuss and establish rules, expectations, and boundaries that are fair and appropriate for everyone involved. Consistency in enforcing these boundaries is crucial.

I think this is what a lock on the parent’s door is made for.

6. Fostering individual relationships: Encourage each family member to build individual relationships with one another. This can involve spending one-on-one time, engaging in shared activities, or showing genuine interest in each other’s lives. This will help strengthen the overall family dynamic.

Do you think each one will like to spend time with me in the grocery store? Because that is the top thing I always do when I have a spare minute.

7. Seeking professional help if needed: If you encounter significant challenges or conflicts within the blended family, don’t hesitate to seek professional help. Family therapists or counselors can provide guidance, support, and strategies to navigate through difficult situations.

Yeah, this. Definitely.

8. Being patient and flexible: Blending a family is a process that requires patience and flexibility. Understand that it takes time for everyone to adjust to the new family dynamics. Be open to adapting your approach and expectations as you learn more about each other.

Like the fact that I forget to shave my legs and occasionally forget to brush my teeth before bed?

9. Focusing on building trust: Trust is the foundation of any successful family. Encourage trust-building activities, such as team-building exercises, open discussions, and actively listening to one another. Trust takes time to develop, so be patient and consistent in your efforts.

I trust that they will do their homework, and they can trust that someone will pick them up from school.

10. Celebrating milestones and achievements: Recognize and celebrate the progress and achievements of your blended family. Acknowledge the efforts made by each family member, both big and small. This positivity and appreciation will help foster a sense of belonging and unity.

I love a good celebration. If there’s cake, I’m in!

Blending a family is a unique journey and not for the faint of heart. It may have its challenges, but I can create a strong, harmonious, blended family that fulfills my big dream with love, understanding, and dedication.

Really.