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5 Ways To Stop Sabotaging Writing Dreams

Last updated on July 5th, 2022 at 11:59 am

5 Ways To Stop Sabotaging Writing DreamsWhile I’ve been very productive writing for a living, when it comes to working on my memoir, “Toxic Mom Toolkit,” I’ve spent considerable head time thinking about writing instead of writing.

Add to that stress, a neck, and backache, eating too much, avoiding the gym — even ditching walking the dogs, which I love.

I’m entering week two of this self-sabotage loop and my book project is dead in the water.

But why?

As the book project finish line comes into view it’s almost as if I subconsciously don’t want to share all I’ve written, all the cases I’ve collected, all the methods for protecting daughters from toxic moms I know.

Can I really be that selfish?

Here’s my theory. Fear has finally raised its ugly head – – but good.

  • Fear of actually accomplishing a huge goal.
  • Fear of actually writing my first book.
  • Fear of getting it wrong.
  • Fear of getting it right.
  • Fear of toxic mothers burning me in effigy at book signings.

My dad always said turning your back on fear was like walking into the ocean backward. You were going to get wet anyway, so why not dive in?

Here are my 5 ways to fight writing self-sabotage

1.  Stick to a schedule – From now until April 30 I am scheduling two hours each day to work on the book. If I have to get up early, fine. If I have to skip other things — like doing laundry — fine.
2.  Take care of your health – I am committing to an hour of exercise each day.
3.  Work collaboratively – I will send new work to my editor each Friday for review.
4.  Factor in time for contemplation – I will alternate write and review days to be sure to let my work “rest.” Allowing this float time will help me pare my words down to the bone; crucial for a project like this.
5.  Planning reduces stress – I will write this column each Wednesday in advance of the Sunday run. Lately, I’ve been waiting till Friday, even Saturday to write my Sunday column, which is a clear sign of procrastination. No more.

Just declaring all this makes me feel empowered. It makes me feel like I’m suiting up for battle; A really fun, exhilarating battle that I can win.

Rayne Wolfe

Toxic Mom Toolkit: Discovering a Happy Life Despite Toxic ParentingMothers Who Can't Love: A Healing Guide for DaughtersWill I Ever Be Good Enough?: Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers

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Rayne Wolfe

Rayne Wolfe is a versatile and accomplished writer, author, writing coach, and freelancer. Her notable work includes ‘Toxic Mom Toolkit,’ a memoir that not only shares her personal journey but also features mini-stories from women around the globe who, despite facing the challenges of a toxic mother, have grown into resilient adults. As a seasoned journalist, Rayne has served as a former business columnist for the San Francisco Chronicle/Examiner Sunday and the Seattle Times, showcasing her ability to distill complex topics into engaging narratives that resonate with diverse audiences.

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