Positive Thursday: 21 Habits of Happy People

Last updated on June 9th, 2012 at 09:30 pm

Last week, I wrote about embracing and living a different life — coloring outside the lines, doing something wild, unexpected, free.

While that is something that’s important to me, sometimes my 9-5 life (and job) takes priority. This week I’ve been insanely busy and when I’m not working, I prefer to be sitting on my couch decompressing with old Sex and the City episodes and a hot cup of tea.

While working 50+ hours a week is not ideal, I am thankful I HAVE a job in the first place and that I’m enjoying what I’m doing and the people I’m surrounded by.

How many people can truly say that?!

Something I’m always striving for and trying to live out is happiness. What does a happy person look like to you? What could change or alter in your life to affect your happiness?

Today I want to share a fantastic list that I first found on the site Marc & Angel and then posted on Polish My Crown. Even happy people feel grief, sorrow or sadness; they just don’t let it overtake their life.

21 Habits of Happy People —

1. APPRECIATE LIFE

Be thankful that you woke up alive each morning. Develop a childlike sense of wonder towards life. Focus on the beauty of every living thing. Make the most of each day. Don’t take anything for granted. Don’t sweat the small stuff.

2. CHOOSE FRIENDS WISELY

Surround yourself with happy, positive people who share your values and goals. Friends that have the same ethics as you will encourage you to achieve your dreams.

They help you to feel good about yourself. They are there to lend a helping hand when needed.

3. BE CONSIDERATE

Accept others for who they are as well as where they are in life. Respect them for who they are.

Touch them with a kind and generous spirit. Help when you are able, without trying to change the other person. Try to brighten the day of everyone you come into contact with.

4. LEARN CONTINUOUSLY

Keep up to date with the latest news regarding your career and hobbies.

Try new and daring things that has sparked your interest — such as dancing, skiing, surfing or sky-diving.

5. CREATIVE PROBLEM SOLVING

Don”t wallow in self-pity. As soon as you face a challenge get busy finding a solution.

Don’t let the set backs affect your mood, instead see each new obstacle you face as an opportunity to make a positive change. Learn to trust your gut instincts they are almost always right.

6. DO WHAT THEY LOVE

Some statistics show that 80% of people dislike their jobs! No wonder there’s so many unhappy people running around.

We spend a great deal of our life working. Choose a career that you’ll enjoy the extra money instead of a job you detest.  It just isn’t worth it.

Make time to enjoy your hobbies and pursue special interests.

7. ENJOY LIFE

Take the time to see the beauty around you. There’s more to life than work. Take time to smell the roses, watch a sunset or sunrise with a loved one, take a walk along the seashore, hike in the woods etc.

Learn to live in the present moment and cherish it. Don’t live in the past or the future.

8. LAUGH

Don’t take yourself — or life to seriously. You can find humor in just about any situation.

Laugh at yourself no one’s perfect. When appropriate laugh and make light of the circumstances. (Naturally there are times that you should be serious as it would be improper to laugh.)

9. FORGIVE

Holding a grudge will hurt no one but you. Forgive others for your own peace of mind.

When you make a mistake own up to it, learn from it and FORGIVE yourself.

10. GRATITUDE

Develop an attitude of gratitude. Count your blessings; All of them — even the things that seem trivial. Be grateful for your home, your work and most importantly your family and friends.

Take the time to tell them that you are happy they are in your life.

11. INVEST IN RELATIONSHIPS

Always make sure your loved ones know you love them even in times of conflict. Nurture and grow your relationships with your family and friends by making the time to spend with them.

Don’t break your promises to them. Be supportive.

12. KEEP YOUR WORD

Honesty is the best policy. Every action and decision you make should be based on honesty.

Be honest with yourself and with your loved ones.

13. MEDITATE

Meditation gives your very active brain a rest. When it’s rested you will have more energy and function at a higher level.

Types of meditation include yoga, affirmations, visualization or just sitting in complete silence. Find something you enjoy and make the time to practice daily.

14. MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS

Concentrate on creating your life the way you want it. Take care of you and your family. Don’t get overly concerned with what other people are doing or saying.>

Don’t get caught up with gossip or name calling.

Don’t judge.

Everyone has a right to live their own life the way they want to — including you.

15. OPTIMISM

See the glass as half full. Find the positive side of any given situation.

It’s there — even though it may be hard to find. Know that everything happens for a reason, even though you may never know what the reason is.

Steer clear of negative thoughts. If a negative thought creeps in and replace it with a positive thought.

16. LOVE UNCONDITIONALLY

Accept others for who they are. You don’t put limitations on your love.

Even though you may not always like the actions of your loved ones — you continue to love them.

17. PERSISTENCE

Never give up. Face each new challenge with the attitude that it will bring you one step closer to your goal.

You will never fail, as long as you never give up. Focus on what you want, learn the required skills, make a plan to succeed and take action.

We are always happiest while pursuing something of value to us.

18. BE PROACTIVE

Accept what can not be changed. Happy people don’t waste energy on circumstances beyond their control.

Accept your limitations as a human being. Determine how you can take control by creating the outcome you desire, rather than waiting to respond.

19. SELF CARE

Take care of your mind, body and health. Get regular medical check ups. Eat healthy and work out.

Get plenty of rest. Drink lots of water.

Exercise your mind by continually energizing it with interesting and exciting challenges.

20. SELF CONFIDENCE

Don’t try to be someone that you’re not. After all no one likes a phony.

Determine who you are in the inside and your own personal likes and dislikes. Be confident in who you are.

Do the best you can and don’t second guess yourself.

21. TAKE RESPONSIBILITY 

Happy people know and understand that they are 100% responsible for their life.

They take responsibility for their moods, attitude, thoughts, feelings, actions and words.

They are the first to admit when they’ve made a mistake. 

Begin today by taking responsibility for your happiness. Work on developing these habits as you own.

The more you incorporate the above habits into your daily lifestyle, the happier you will be.

Most of all: BE TRUE TO YOURSELF.

May today be a day full of happiness and may you learn to develop strong and effective “happiness habits.”

With love, always –

Andi